Sing a Song – it can make your day!

Sing a Song – it can make your day!


When a couple are getting married there are many options available to them for their ceremony. Music is something that most couples include in some way. If you are having a Church wedding you would usually include one or more hymns. You can also include hymns in a Celebrant led wedding. (I will write a separate blogpost about choosing hymns.) Singing a song or hymn together can be a very uplifting experience and allows family and friends to contribute to the occasion. However, you may want a non-traditional, humanist or non-religious wedding ceremony without hymns but with singing, or one of you may want a hymn and the other would like people to sing together, but would prefer a well known love song. It’s not for everybody but if you love to sing then sing a song – it really can make your day!

Singing in Ceremony

So what kind of song works best?

Well, that depends on you! What kind of music do you and your partner like? How about your friends and family? Are they likely to sing whether they know the song or not? Or does it need to be something really, really well known. The most important thing is that it’s easy to sing. Choose a song with a good rhythm. Songs with choruses work well as even the most nervous singers are likely to start joining in on the second chorus!

What can we do to encourage people to sing?

It is really hard to get a group of people to sing a whole song without accompaniment as they are likely to go out of time pretty quickly. A backing track or full recording or live music are pretty essential.

If you have someone (or a group of people) who has a good voice and knows the song then get them to lead the singing. It will help people to stay to time – and some may even keep in tune!

However well known you think a song is it will go better if the lyrics are provided. A lot of us think we know songs but then find we forget what words come next after the first verse so print them out for people or put them up on a screen.

Get your officiant to encourage people to sing in advance. If they feel that they are doing it for you and that people joining in is much more important than them being in tune, people are more likely to let go and sing a song for you.

All you need is love





My top ten Wedding Ceremony singalong songs to date

All you need is love – The Beatles

Can you feel the love tonight? – Elton John

One Love – Bob Marley

Walking on Sunshine – Katrina and the waves

Happy – Pharrell Williams

I’m a believer – The Monkees

Can’t help falling in love – Elvis Presley

Cheek to Cheek – Lady Gaga and Tony Bennett

Love changes everything – from Aspects of Love

Don’t stop believing – Journey

So have a think about what song your tribe could sing together and set it up – it really can make your day.

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Unity Sand Ceremony – A Visual Expression of Togetherness

Unity Sand Ceremony – A Visual Expression of Togetherness



Last month in a naming ceremony I conducted we used a Unity Sand Ceremony. It demonstrated how mum, dad and baby were now blended together in family life.

Naming Sand CeremonyUnity Sand in a Naming Ceremony

Three small bottle of sand, each a different colour, represented each member of the family. Half of each bottle was poured into a larger bottle, forming visible layers of the colours. This represented the individuals, whose uniqueness could still be seen. Then the rest of the sand from each of the three bottles was poured together into the funnel to fill the larger container. We recognised that just as the sand from each individual bottle could not be separated back into the individual containers, so each individual would be affected by being part of this family. Our wish for the family on that day was that they would be together, in love, for longer than it would take for the individual grains of sand to be separated.

Wedding Sand CeremonyUnity Sand in a Wedding Ceremony

Sand ceremonies are also very special as part of wedding ceremonies. They demonstrate the unity of the couple in a very visual way. Where children are involved, either those of the couple together or coming into a blended family, different coloured sands can be used to represent the children. Parents of the couple getting married can be involved in a sand ceremony. This gives a demonstration of the heritage of the new family going forward. All of the colour that created the individuals can be seen joining together on that day. In a religious ceremony the bottom of the unity container is often covered with another colour demonstrating God’s love as their foundation.

Sand Ceremony family Celebrant Words can be helpful but the Ceremony is visual

In the words of the sand ceremony individuals are often reminded of all of the gifts and graces that they each bring – represented by the separate colours. Then the beauty of the new relationship which calls on those individual gifts and graces is recognised.


Sand Ceremony Naming CelebrantA sand ceremony can be very simple

One beautiful ceremony I loved had a couple bring sand from two different beaches Special to them. They used jugs to pour the sand through a paper funnel into a Mason jar. Simple but effective. It is also possible to get lots of different coloured sands and to buy personalised pouring vessels and containers. The coloured sands can be chosen to meet the wedding colour scheme or as the favourite colours of all taking part.

Whatever you choose, a sand ceremony can be a fabulous, powerfully visual illustration of your new relationship. It also provides a special keepsake to put on display in your home.


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