ALL YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT USING AN OATHING STONE IN YOUR CEREMONY
Have you heard about making your vows with an oathing stone? Or using stones to involve your guests? Using a ritual in your wedding or vow renewal ceremony is one way to make it unique, personal and meaningful.
Why use an oathing stone?
In ancient times people made their vows using oathing stones as they were seen as strong and stable (sure I have heard that phrase before!). And this is what a couple wanted their relationship to be. In this Celtic tradition, which began in Scotland, the couple each hold the oathing stone in their hands or put their hands together on it. The stone may be one from a favourite place or bought because it appeals to them. Some couples carve their names on a large stone which they use for their vows and then keep in their home or garden. Smaller stones might be used as a paper weight, in an aquarium or in some other way in the home.It is said that the use of oathing stones is where the phrase “set in stone” comes from.
Guests using stones in a ceremony
Another way to use stones is for each guest to have the opportunity to receive a stone as they arrive at the Ceremony. They are invited to hold them whilst the vows are being made and recognise their relationship with the couple. Just before the wedding vows are made they are invited to send their warm wishes, thoughts and prayers for the couple as they hold the stone. Following the ceremony the couple invite their guests to throw the stones in nearby water such as a river or lake and send blessings. Blessings made near water have been thought to be more binding.
An alternative to this is for the stones to be placed in a container such as a glass vase or a bowl which the couple take home to remind them of the good wishes of their guests. Another is for the stones to be placed together in a cairn on the ground when the ceremony is outside.
Suitable words when an oathing stone is used.
The following words are beautiful ones to use as a blessing in such a ceremony. I have heard versions of these words described as a Celtic, Apache and as a Pagan blessing. Whatever the origin they are beautiful words:
Above you are the stars, below you are the stones.
As time passes, remember…
Like a star let your love be constant,
Like the earth let your love be firm.
Let the powers of the mind and of the heart
guide you in your marriage,
Let the strength of your wills bind you together,
Let the power of love and desire make you happy
and the strength of your dedication make you inseparable.
Possess one another, yet be understanding.
Have patience with each other,
For storms will come, and they will go,
Able to dissipate in the light of your love.
Be free in giving of affection and of warmth.
Have no fear, and let not the ways
Or words of others give you unease.
For your love is with you,
Now and always!
If you are interested in using an oathing stone in your ceremony, get in touch.